Mormon or More Men...no judgement.

When you're the gay at a Mormon wedding, you're bound to feel a little awkward. There is, of course, the inevitable Prop 8 joke. On top of that, you realize you can't help but dress like an ad for the local chapter of PFLAG even if you put on tennis shoes. The skinny jeans will always win. But I had been friends, nay, BROTHERS with the groom for years, and never once did our difference in beliefs get in the way of love.

Boy oh boy, was this weekend full of love. While it was, of course, full of debauchery and shenanigans that I'm afraid to put into writing for fear I'll never forget they happened, there were also the times full of sobriety, in which we experienced something that transcended simple marriage.

I'm not afraid to admit I held the ignorant belief that most deeply religious people had the need for marrying anyone they could stand for more than three weeks before they turned thirty. Leaving college without a ring is like leaving the house without your pants on (which may have happened on the trip...I can't remember). But when I met the bride, and when I saw them look at each other, it was very clear that this love had nothing to do with convenience of matching religions. These were soul mates.

And I say if you are able to love another person so deeply, so truly, and so honestly...much belief beyond that doesn't matter. We all believe in love.

We all also believe that if you make through an entire weekend with my bros, there HAS to be a God.

In the name of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit,

TJB: Making It

Bro-K

As I carried my booze in a brown paper bag down the street, I watched the bus pull up ahead of me and thought, "Do I run?"

I realized I had been running a lot in the past year. To New York, to the auditions, to the trains, to Chicago, to the buses, to the interviews and for the first time in a very long time, I didn't feel like running...because I didn't have to.

So, I walked.

I walked the half an hour through the snow covered streets of Chicago until my forehead was frozen. I wrote a song on the way that I thought would change the world that I couldn't remember 10 minutes later, but that didn't matter because all that did matter was the whiskey and the beer and the bros.

And we sat. We sat talking about nothing and laughing about everything on one of those nights where nobody cared what we did because we were together. For four hours, we didn't move. We didn't have to.

You know those moments you have when you suddenly think to yourself, "Everything's going to be OK"?

This was that.

Carry on,

TJB: Making It