YouTube or You Lose

We've all had those nights at home alone with a bottle of wine when we realize we have zero friends and we'll never amount to anything and we'll die alone and nobody will remember us and the person who finds us on the bathroom floor will probably just close the door and quietly back away while the cats cuddle up next to our decaying body.

How do I find myself in such places given I have such flawless bone structure, am 6'1", blonde, and insanely talented? Usually, I find myself falling down a YouTube wormhole brought on by bottomless glasses of Malbec and Twitter feeds of ex boyfriends. But, after years of tears and self-deprecating humor, I have discovered how to climb out of the deep, dark pit of YouTube emotions. You just have to know which related videos to click and in which order. 

Get ready America. You're about to be taken on a turbulent journey of emotions. My emotions. This could get ugly (and really gay). Clear you calendar and cork the wine because you're not going anywhere. 

It's the first glass and I'm just not sure how I'm feeling. So, I turn to Alice Ripley singing "Meadowlark" in a production of The Bakers Wife directed by a former director of mine (who I admit is very handsome and has received an unfortunate amount of unsolicited drunk texts...so sorry). The song is sad, happy, sad again, happy, hopeful, bittersweet, and as bipolar as Diana Goodman. 

I've decided her tearful Irish goodbye at the end is just enough to send me towards the dark side. I probably didn't belong with any of those boys anyway, right? But maybe I did. But maybe we should have? How can I tell? Maybe Sondheim can help me. Let's check in:

Oh my GOD, she's right. We're pregnant and he doesn't care and we might as well just move across the ocean because WTF. Let's sing another really emotional song about leaving from the musical that changed my life, sung by a woman who was never in that musical. Currently, I'm pouring my second (or third) glass:

So, my apartment is packed and I've decided I'm moving back to Chicago or back to New York, or whichever city I'm not currently living in. Now I'm wondering if maybe this is just who I am. Maybe I should just stick it out because this masochistic lifestyle is a part of me, and maybe I like it that way. Hey Julia, do you know any songs about that? Of course you do:

OK, we've pretty much hit rock bottom. I'm looking at that second bottle of wine and telling myself, "NO! We can beat this!" But I can't seem to fully shake the masochistic quality of it all. I must speak my mind through song (one I sing really well), only sung by this guy who sings it better. Dedicated readers, in a huge and unexpected move...I unveil to you: The Boy With the Leather Jacket. 

I'm back to that maybe-I-can feeling, but I need to build myself up more. Let's sing a song about how smart and amazing I am and everyone back home thinks I'm awesome, but OMG what if I'm not, but I probably still am? If you ever see me walking down the street and my mouth is moving, I'm probably singing this song:

I can do this. I want it. But I want MORE. I turn to my embarrassingly passionate love of Disney (and face my fear of gingers):

YES! YES! I will have love! I will have fame! GIVE IT TO ME!

Yes. This is it. My bottle of wine is finished and I've talked myself out of getting a cat. I return to Sondheim to remind myself that even though times can be dark, there can be a happy ending as long as you keep moving on: 

We've done it. We've come full circle, and even though I'm drunk, I'm feeling more motivated than ever. I turn to the performance I saw during one of my first trips to NYC, music directed by a man who means as much to me as a father. I watch this video before every audition when I need that extra kick before walking out the door, reminding myself that the only direction you need is "forward". 

Finish your wine,

TJB: Making It

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The psychology of an addict is a complicated thing. We are delicate creatures. And though I am recovering, America...I had a relapse last night.

That's right. I was just one iPhone screen touch away from purchasing a one-way ticket to New York.

I am addicted to running. A lot. Both literally (although I hurt my ankle, thanks for caring) and metaphorically. I'm like Julia Roberts in that movie I don't really remember, but there were lots of wedding dresses and cute guys, so I was on board.

You see, I went to this super swanky, open bar, artist's birthday party on the south side of Chicago that my friend invited me to. He has a pretty serious girlfriend, so I made sure to confirm that other friends would be attending. Since I am about as single as it gets, I had to ensure I wasn't the third wheel.

Turns out, I was the 9th wheel.

They weren't all couples, but I sort of realized that I was the only one without a party buddy. Sure, I was really feeling it when I was in the bathroom line and some ex-model kept telling me I needed to be in magazines, but as soon as she peed, I was left with my flickering ego and six too many vodka drinks. The lady at the snack table was even concerned once I hit my third bag of Flamin' Hot Cheetos and wasn't high.

A reminder this is about my addiction to RUNNING...not substance abuse...Mom...

So, I posed for a few inevitable photos and decided I should duck out. I pulled an Irish Goodbye. But when I found myself walking 10 blocks to a bus I wasn't sure was going to show up, I sort of regretted my choice. Not because I was afraid of the south side at night (I was terrified), but because I was acting like a baby.

A baby with an iPhone. I am shocked how efficiently I could pull up a  flight to JFK. Fortunately, I couldn't find the information for my 50 JetBlue dollars I had sitting in an account somewhere, so I decided I would have to put off buying the ticket until the morning. Then, I made sure everybody knew just how upset I was.

How did we embarrass ourselves before text messaging?

I woke up this morning and deleted the conversations. I trusted that the world was sort of used to this by now. It was time I sat myself down for a serious talk. By serious talk, I mean I sang along to every emotional Katy Perry and Whitney Houston song I could find on YouTube. Yes, they were karaoke tracks. I don't need the competition. 

Once I dragged myself out of bed for coffee (7-Eleven because I didn't deserve Starbucks), I found a photo from last night in my coat pocket. The party looked pretty awesome. I was pretty lucky to have been invited to such a cool party. I was even more lucky to go to it with such cool friends.

WOW I can be such a whiny bitch. I had 3 open bars with unlimited Flamin' Hot Cheetos, and all I could do was feel sad because nobody was paying attention to me and I wasn't dating Ryan Gosling. I was like a fat girl on Pinterest with a cat in my lap, clicking shit without thinking. Time to LOG OFF and SHAPE UP!

This is why you're single,

TJB: Making It